People often ask me how TWLOHA works. What’s the dream? What’s the goal? The more the years go by, the more simple my answer gets. These days it goes something like this: The dream is people knowing that it’s okay to be honest and it’s okay to ask for help. The dream is people choosing to stay alive. The dream is you never giving up on your story because no one else can play your part, because there’s still some time to be surprised. That’s why TWLOHA exists and that’s what “No One Else Can Play Your Part” is all about.
I hope there are days when you fall in love with being alive.
Every day can be that day
Happy 21st birthday, friendThere are good endings, and bad endings. But can you always tell the difference? There is the truth that the end of anything is really the beginning of something else.
That is how I would like to remember Marina’s death. Not the end of her life here on earth, with us, but rather, the completeness of her life. Her time on earth was fulfilled, because she filled her life here with love, and it was time for her to start a new beginning in Heaven.
Today would have been her 21st birthday. And later this semester I would have gone up to school, seen her smiling face, felt her life through her energy, joy, and excitement. We would have hugged and laughed over her losing her glasses, again, or that she still carried those same duct-taped sandals everywhere, but walked barefoot. She would meet all the freshmen and be so excited to be back at school, even while everyone else was already depressed. And we would have made a huge deal out of today, even though it would completely embarrassed her and she wouldn’t even want us to know.
It’s been 8 months since her life here was fulfilled and Marina had a new beginning. My heart aches at the thought of never seeing her on earth again. There is nothing that can ease the pain or make any of us forget, and if we are honest with ourselves, we wouldn’t want that anyway.
”It is supposed to hurt, my child. That is why there is water in your eyes and blood in your veins.”